Why do most subs come with an abused background? Don't abuse them

[ceegee{Benz}]

A "true" Dominant will take a sub/slave on no matter what their background is.
A "true" Dominant will help their sub/slave see that there is more to life
than any form of abuse that the sub/slave may of encountered and guide them back onto the right path, and that all men or women are not bastards or bitches.
That is part and parcel of the Dominant's Creed.

[jiggy]

A "true" Dominant will take a sub/slave on no matter what their background is.

This is unacceptable...........A real dominant would NOT take on a sub who has been abused and knows no better

[nk_lion]

This is unacceptable...........A real dominant would NOT take on a sub who has been abused and knows no better

So if a person wants to be a sub, and has submissive tendancies, because of some ass who abused them before, they do not have the right to be one?

[Uncle_Ed]

Sexual abuse:The improper use of another person for sexual purposes, generally without their consent or under physical or psychological pressure (which may include children whether abused by parents, those in loco parentis or strangers).
Physical abuse: Where one person inflicts physical violence or pain on another.
Verbal abuse: When a person uses profanity, demeaning talk, or threatening statements.

A question, jiggy. Tricking a sub and pissing down her throat? (From another of your posts) Would that not be classed as abuse? Forgive me-but I am confused by this. You appear to dismiss a large proportion of subs, yet at the same time seem, in my opinion, to be possibly verging on abuse yourself? I am interested as my own experience clearly doesn't match your own. I only know that I have sat here many times and been moved to tears by the admissions of some subs-many of whom are well-balanced, intelligent people who have come to terms with their sexuality and their leanings. They have not supressed their memories-otherwise would be unable to openly chat about them. I cannot accept that such brave souls are victims any longer or have been diminished by their experiences. I can, however, believe that some abusers have tainted their souls by their actions.

[Rhabbi]

This is unacceptable...........A real dominant would NOT take on a sub who has been abused and knows no better

A real Dominant knows how to help a sub deal with their past and the emotions that it causes.