I think my tendancy to be submissive with a female partner comes from the era I've been brought up in. As someone who is, shall we say, a little younger than the majority of members on this site, I've grown up in the first era where feminism and gender equality has (argue this all you wish) been an idea we've been exposed to in a long term and pervasive fashion. It's become ingrained to the point where I have to feel very comfortable with a woman before the idea being dominant with her becomes something I can do without an automatic response of chauvanist guilt. I wonder if that's something anyone else feels?

This quote is taken from Wyl, I thought this was interesting... I feel best submitting to a "good man" especially if he has been in a relationship with an overbearing woman in the past, it is as if part of me wants to show him not all women are like that...if he has a dominant demeanor it is easy to submit...
Nothing to do with real feminism, but I think some women abuse the power that has been won for them by being...pushy and mean with men.

There is something sexy about finding a man who wants to dominate...it feels natural, at the same time being allowed to dominate that same man is something I find extra tasty, but he has to allow it. He is larger and stronger after all, even if we are the same size...The big power I have is the power to tell him no more, or to continue to say yes please. It might sound trite, but it feels primal.

I am only a tiny bit bisexual, I fall for a girl once in ten years. Women are so complicated, I know I am a woman and I confuse myself all the time. I always have a more dominant attitude with the girls...all two of them. I would bet there is a high percentage of people who are bisexual and switch as both bespeak an odd flexibility.

I think I am more dominant with women because I have never had trouble attracting men, and I don't like women as much, therefore can totally live without sex with another woman, and I can be detached...but men...I am very...addicted to men, I love men and get much more excited for a man...he is therefore more able to dominate me...hmmm.

I am still figuring all of this out.



Of course, this could vary, according to the individual and I have to get to know someone very well before any of it is thinkable, much less doable.

BP