BDSM before and after the Internet

[Logic1]

I better let older people than me answer this but my guess would be that it wasnt very easy to get in touch with other people with your interests and likes.

[Uncle_Ed]

I better let older people than me answer this but my guess would be that it wasnt very easy to get in touch with other people with your interests and likes.

Ah. That would be me, then.

It was indeed difficult. There were numerous magazines, of course, and clubs. Both could work-but as always, one needed to be careful. I imagine that the scene from a sub's point of view must have been truly terrifying.
I'm not what you might call a small guy-so I have been in some places where perhaps others may not dare to venture. I will say that in my experience, the scene here in the UK has been very friendly and I have had some great times-but I have as daft an outlook in real life as I do in here-so get by on my sense of humour and of the rdiiculous.

I have never been taken that seriously-and I am grateful that I seem to keep people amused.

But-back to the point. I have dated a few girls in my time-and simply told them of my preferences. The general reaction was one of deep interest and willingness to try...I have been very lucky.

[Logic1]

Ah. That would be me, then.

But-back to the point. I have dated a few girls in my time-and simply told them of my preferences. The general reaction was one of deep interest and willingness to try...I have been very lucky.

yes you are one of the persons I thought about there

and yes honesty seems to be working for me too.
If you make a good impression in the first date or 2, then most girls I find are atleast willing to try some fun in the hay if you get to that point in a relationship.

[Rhabbi]

Two words.

It sucked.

Very accurate description. I honestly believe that if the internet was not around I would still be a frustrated vanilla more than anything.

I better let older people than me answer this but my guess would be that it wasnt very easy to get in touch with other people with your interests and likes.

And it could be dangerous. Here in the US it was, and still is, illegal in a lot of places, unlike the UK. One of the biggest concerns we had in making new contacts was screening out police and FBI moles. My FBI files contained enough interesting information that I was denied a security clearance that I needed, apparently they thought I would be blackmailed by some foreign government to reveal stuff that you could find with some diligent research even then. And one party I went to was actually raided shortly after I decided to leave, and a friend of mine was arrested.

My advice to you youngsters is to be glad that you have the internet to explore things.