Ah. That would be me, then.
It was indeed difficult. There were numerous magazines, of course, and clubs. Both could work-but as always, one needed to be careful. I imagine that the scene from a sub's point of view must have been truly terrifying.
I'm not what you might call a small guy-so I have been in some places where perhaps others may not dare to venture. I will say that in my experience, the scene here in the UK has been very friendly and I have had some great times-but I have as daft an outlook in real life as I do in here-so get by on my sense of humour and of the rdiiculous.
I have never been taken that seriously-and I am grateful that I seem to keep people amused.
But-back to the point. I have dated a few girls in my time-and simply told them of my preferences. The general reaction was one of deep interest and willingness to try...I have been very lucky.