Holy crap. Go away a few days and look at the mess! Damn Doms...no wonder they have subs...somebody has to clean up.

Which brings up the topic of this thread. (like the segue?)

"Forgetfullness"...is it a legitimate excuse/reason?

Context is everything. i.e. housekeeping. While I will endeavor to improve I will never (and I do mean, strongly, never) be a perfect housekeeper. Not even an especially good one. If Master says to me "Mishka, you will have the bed made, the dishes done and dinner cooked by the time I get home", I could do that. If He wants it every single day...now we're getting into personality clashes.

"I forgot". You can say that flippantly. You can put it out there for everything you didn't do, without remorse, without consideration. I get Oz's point on this kind of forgetfullness. It's childish. It's not even an attempt at obedience, it's simply not bothering.

Then there's *slaps head* "I completely forgot about that." The "I remembered it, just not when I was home to do it." Mine is the "I was so distracted I forgot." As Annie mentioned, "Senior/ADD moment."

Excusing myself before even confessing or even apologizing is inconsiderate vanilla or D/s. Is it really "I was too lazy.", "I didn't give what You said a second thought.", "I didn't think it was that important.", etc etc.?

Golly, pick the battles. Know the person you're with. If it's play then play. If it's training then get to it. If it's willful disobedience then get to the core issue of it. I may not be the most experienced person on this list, but I understand differences in personalities. Anyone ever get the premarital counseling about "He squeezes the tooth paste in the middle, you squeeze it from the bottom. It's going to annoy the hell out of you." speech? The lesson is what's worth getting upset over? What's worth changing?

My Master chooses what training I need in certain areas. I don't remember the last time he "played" discipline. If it were something we could joke about while I learned, like making the bed, it might take longer, but maybe some things are like that? Not all, but a few? Is it ok? Well...I'm not seeing the reason to get upset about this.

I like the way Rhabbi Dominates me. When He is firm I learn and that is a very safe place to be, and my submission (I believe) improves because of it.

That's my limited experience. Perhaps someone with a live-in 24/7 M/s relationship could explain their experience from both sides it might help. Honestly, it seems to be a personality thing rather than a cut and dry D/s rule.