Orgasm Control- The In's and Out's

[tessa]

I was just curious as to when permission is granted or when it is denied. Is it part of a certain process, or is it determined by the mood of the Dominant, or how well a sub can beg for it.

Sorry if I hijacked this thread a bit.

You didn't hijack it a bit! You added to it. My thanks.

Finally I can have her cum by just talking her into it, without any touch by me or her.

Fascinating. Absloutely fascinating. I can't even imagine that. How much time does it take to develop that sort of ability?

We want you to beg us because that is OUR kink. We relish the power you give us when we control your orgasms and begging allows us to wield that power (perhaps over simplified.)

Over-simplified or not, the insight is invaluable! So appreciating you for this.

I think that a lot of us submissives are into what we are into precisely because we have trouble asking for what we need and worry about appearing weak in the "real world." We try really hard to be tough and independent, and it leaves us with a real need to be cared for. A lot of us are used to living in cultures (particularly corporate culture -- notice how many submissives have some kind of white-collar office job) where having needs and limits is thought of as a failing to be eliminated; it's no wonder we seek out those who are willing to give us what we need and respect us for our strengths without disregarding our weaknesses.

That is another spot of brilliance. Excellently worded. And so very clarifying for me personally. Thank you for taking the time to say it in just this way.

Ma_am, your definitions make perfect sense to me. Not sure if that's such a positive reflection, coming from me...