Quote Originally Posted by His_little one View Post
From personal experience I am dominant in my every day life but when it comes to relationships i believe the man should be in control. Like Kote I will try to control him if I can -- not necessarily on purpose but as more of a subconscious test i guess. If he lets me control the relationship I get bored and lose respect.

This is exactly true for me. The right Dom for me would have to be able to see through this and know what I'm doing. I can't tell you the number of times I've been manipulative and played little games to see if I would be caught. I want to be caught! A Dom who could see what I'm doing will be my intellectual equal, and it would have to be that way, for me to be able to submit.