i did not mean to judge anybody on here about what they do online or off with out there partners knowing i was just answering my point of view

and for my comment about everybody can change it takes time well i serpose that did sound a little one sided

but i have not met man or woman that breaths that if there partner asked them to go out choose them, some little lace outfit ,leather or what ever floats there boat then tells them they can tie them up and have there way with them they would not jump at the chance, i was just saying there is a spark in all of us