The debate here has been amazing, lots of good viewpoints from both sides. I appreciate the time that each of you have spent posting and I believe that I can take something from both sides. By the by, we did finally talk, after she read through this posting, and I thought we had made some headway towards a mutual resolution, but some habits die hard and I don't think she's fully committed to our plan.

To be honest I knew nothing of this lifestyle until recently and with our without her I plan to keep learning and hopefully sharing as each of you have done with me.

Thank you,

new1