I too believe that the line delineating cheating depends upon the rules established by a particular couple. For example, if am in a vanilla relationship and am horny and not getting sex while my significant other is masturbating in the bathroom every night - that is cheating. He is taking something from me - from our relationship without my consent. NOTE- i had to exclude a bdsm relationship because that would be par for the course for a Dom into orgasm control - and would not be cheating - because I had consented.

Similarly, if my relationship is suffering from lack of time and attention, then yes - playing golf could be considered cheating. Because it is cheating me of needed time. However, if my relationship is solid, and playing golf eases the tensions of the week to put my significant other in a better frame of mind when we are together - it is not cheating because it is giving a benefit to the relationship rather than harming it.

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