well like i said before this will go back to the online vs real life debate ............i am a real life dom sure i may play online and laugh and kid and joke...but to have an entire relationship this just seem a bit silly and makes me question both peoples motives on both sides of it......if they are single why not take the next step?.......if married and want out ..why not do just that...........to be married and not have the balls to say they want out and get what they want.......so basically they are selfish people who only care of themslefs if they want to keep it online...sure i can understand being married to a vanilla person that has no intrest in it......thats where they need to step up and say hey i either get what i want or we get a divorce or they will deal with it and be vanilla...i could never have just an online relationship i need the touch of flesh ect its ummmm way more enjoyable that way to me......now the ugly side of this the same people who do this form of cheating on their vanilla spouce...will often defend an online relationship with things like ...it is very real.......stuff klike that....but once they get cause by their spouce the first thing out of their mouths is.....its only on line it is not real ect......and these are the ones i hate the most pick a side any side dont try to play both.......