Quote Originally Posted by delish View Post
If a Dom is looking for a sub who willingly serves and is naturally submissive, I don't think that makes the Dom a weakling. I think a Dom is a weakling if s/he is threatened by the greatness of his/her submissive, but that has very little (in my opinion) to do with personal tastes within the lifestyle.
Well spoken delish and others - but there is a distinction I'd like to make in the above. My girl is very submissive - but she is also a very strong person. By the tone of what you've written in your longer post she would be classified her as a door mat in some eyes - and she is anything but that - deep submission does not make a door mat, though door mats are indeed deeply submissive. I think the difference is that a door mat will submit to any form of dominance without having had her mind won (in essence - she has given herself over to dominance - not to an individual) - where a non-door mat deep submissive must always have her mind won over (she submits to whatever depth she needs - to the one who has won her mind)...as a wise friend puts it "Capture the mind and the rest will follow". That describes my girl. And I wouldn't change her one iota!