New Dom....help!!

[delish]

Well spoken delish and others - but there is a distinction I'd like to make in the above. My girl is very submissive - but she is also a very strong person. By the tone of what you've written in your longer post she would be classified her as a door mat in some eyes - and she is anything but that - deep submission does not make a door mat, though door mats are indeed deeply submissive. I think the difference is that a door mat will submit to any form of dominance without having had her mind won (in essence - she has given herself over to dominance - not to an individual) - where a non-door mat deep submissive must always have her mind won over (she submits to whatever depth she needs - to the one who has won her mind)...as a wise friend puts it "Capture the mind and the rest will follow". That describes my girl. And I wouldn't change her one iota!

Oh, dear- that's exactly what I was trying NOT to say- and I apologise for miscommunicating. I'm assuming it's something in my longer post that gave the impression that deep submission=doormat. Absolutely not- I was trying to make mention of the fact that there are more ways of showing strength in submission than having an outwardly "strong" personality, though that is no less valid. I keep tripping over my words here, but I did want to apologise, to you and your girl, and anyone who interpreted my post to be judgemental in any way. That was truly not my intention.

[Whippett]

Oh, dear- that's exactly what I was trying NOT to say- and I apologise for miscommunicating. I'm assuming it's something in my longer post that gave the impression that deep submission=doormat. Absolutely not- I was trying to make mention of the fact that there are more ways of showing strength in submission than having an outwardly "strong" personality, though that is no less valid. I keep tripping over my words here, but I did want to apologise, to you and your girl, and anyone who interpreted my post to be judgemental in any way. That was truly not my intention.

In reading back delish, I think I was reading too much into your comment about "does that make a Dom weak" - and there is absolutely no need to apologise dear, you spoke succinctly and clearly and I read more into what you said than you meant. I guess it's a bit of a hot button for me at the moment - as much from what is happening locally with the community as anything. Check your PM