Just an observation

[DowntownAmber]

I do think there are more subs than Doms online, but I also suspect the "introduction" ratio is skewed due to the fact that it's percieved to be easier to introduce one's self as a newbie sub as opposed to a newbie Dom. It's pretty acceptable for a girl (or guy) to hop online and say "hi, I'm a new sub looking for guidance." The Doms pay attention as do the the other subbies (we're kind of a little social support group!). On the other hand, to say "hey, I'm a Dom but I have no real experience" leaves one open to be seen as a poser or not worth the time for the searching subs. Seems much more isolating.

[Tojo]

On the other hand, to say "hey, I'm a Dom but I have no real experience" leaves one open to be seen as a poser or not worth the time for the searching subs. Seems much more isolating.

That may be the perception, but IMO it's refreshing to see a Dom say he doesn't 'know it all'

At least he has some chance of learning, & I firmly believe that an inexperienced Dom willing to learn is a far better prospect than an experienced one who isn't.

Experience does not always equal expertise!

[gemmy]

That may be the perception, but IMO it's refreshing to see a Dom say he doesn't 'know it all'

At least he has some chance of learning, & I firmly believe that an inexperienced Dom willing to learn is a far better prospect than an experienced one who isn't.

Experience does not always equal expertise!

or good for that matter *winks*

[Ozme52]

I do think there are more subs than Doms online, but I also suspect the "introduction" ratio is skewed due to the fact that it's percieved to be easier to introduce one's self as a newbie sub as opposed to a newbie Dom. It's pretty acceptable for a girl (or guy) to hop online and say "hi, I'm a new sub looking for guidance." The Doms pay attention as do the the other subbies (we're kind of a little social support group!). On the other hand, to say "hey, I'm a Dom but I have no real experience" leaves one open to be seen as a poser or not worth the time for the searching subs. Seems much more isolating.

Actually, I think the new dominants who say they are inexperienced get a lot of support. The ones who claim to be experienced but are only looking for inexperienced subs... and have little else to say... and answer every personal ad... are more usually the posers.

The bottom line is that the posers and wannabe's (as opposed to the 'want to be' which isn't a problem) reveal themselves all too soon... but usually after scaring away the new-to-the-lifestyle subs.