a helping hand

[jeanne]

Good topic, icey. I think that it's hard to know when to offer gentle advice. So many submissives write some version of the following in their introduction:

"Hi I'm <fill in super-cutesy-sexy name here> and I'm 19, blond, blue eyes, 36DD, up for anything except scat and blood, PM me if you wanna chat!"

Of course the use of punctuation, grammar and correct spelling is optional. I want so much to say to those young ladies "Girl, please. I hope you realize (though I doubt it) what you're inviting. If you truly believe you're a sub, slow down! Take your time, get to know people, see where and who you are as a submissive...and the dom for you will find you. If all you want is some kinky thrills, go for it, but at least be careful." So often what happens is they hang around for a few days or weeks and then disappear. What happens to them, I wonder?

I have offered unsolicited advice a couple of times - it's been accepted but not utilized. Oh well. Even submissives are a willful, stubborn lot.

[annie]

Good topic, icey. I think that it's hard to know when to offer gentle advice. So many submissives write some version of the following in their introduction:

"Hi I'm <fill in super-cutesy-sexy name here> and I'm 19, blond, blue eyes, 36DD, up for anything except scat and blood, PM me if you wanna chat!"

Of course the use of punctuation, grammar and correct spelling is optional. I want so much to say to those young ladies "Girl, please. I hope you realize (though I doubt it) what you're inviting. If you truly believe you're a sub, slow down! Take your time, get to know people, see where and who you are as a submissive...and the dom for you will find you. If all you want is some kinky thrills, go for it, but at least be careful." So often what happens is they hang around for a few days or weeks and then disappear. What happens to them, I wonder?

I have offered unsolicited advice a couple of times - it's been accepted but not utilized. Oh well. Even submissives are a willful, stubborn lot.

Jeanne, so you LOVE those introductions too?

I used to step out all the time to try and help/warn those that seemed real and yet were under an incorrect impression. Like Jeanne though, so few listened. And worse yet, I felt a lot of the time like the minority because the ones that had "been around" and supposedly knew, were as bad about encouraging the dangerous behavior. Especially the opposite sex of the poster.

If someone is new and has 30 responses to a post like that, with 3 being warnings or suggestions on being careful and 27 being "you go girl" out of human nature we all know who stands the better chance of being listened too!

It certainly makes me understand how BDSM ends up getting such a bad wrap so much of the time...