Protocol?

[Sir_Russell]

I think the advice is good and similar to what I wrote here and other places.

I know that many are all bluff and brag I am what I seem to be on here. Part of my own code of honor is to not depict myself as anything I am not

[Whippett]

I think the advice is good and similar to what I wrote here and other places.

I know that many are all bluff and brag I am what I seem to be on here. Part of my own code of honor is to not depict myself as anything I am not

It's nice to know it's you Russell.

Not to be nasty or insulting - because I, like you do not depict myself as other than I am. But you don't know me from adam, nor I you. We could be lying through our teeth. Granted, keeping up a consistent facade is extremely difficult - especially over the long term - and you have been here long enough that a facade would have cracked by now. On the basis of that I will accept you to be exactly as you portray yourself. (I haven't been here long enough for you to make a judgment call about me one way or the other, though with your extensive experience you may feel you have a grasp of what I'm like).

You must admit, however, that someone new to the lifestyle, or at least not very experienced could be at incredible risk meeting a new Dom for the first time. For her peace of mind (and safety), setting up a safety net of support to cover her during that first meeting makes sense to me - no matter who she's meeting. Especially if there hasn't been a really extensive or intensive period of getting to know each other by other means first.

In this case you already have that prior relationship with Amber and J-Go - it makes the need for a safety net less important. You also have a history and reputation here that speaks volumes about who you are.

But I stand by what I posted above - someone meeting a new Dom for the first time (whether as a friend or as a potential Master) should have a safety net in place prior to the meeting, regardless of how the person portrays himself on-line unless she already has prior knowledge that the computer image is indeed the real person.

As J-Go is doing, I would likely let my girl meet you without a safety-net in place - but that's because I have a ton of experience, and have read back through your posts and have come to a number of conclusions about your character and honour. I would prefer to be there at a meeting - mainly because I am incredibly proud of my girl and enjoy watching her in public settings, but also because I think you would be a fascinating person to meet and talk to.

And this isn't meant to be insulting, Russell - but I have occasionally picked up the pieces when a rash young sub has made a terrible mistake - and I would rather see a girl err on the side of too much caution than too little.

I've never been insulted when a girl has been cautious with me - and I generally ask her to set up a safety net - if she hasn't thought of doing so for herself already.