Quote Originally Posted by cookiecat View Post
Was this one of the hard questions?
It wasn't hard to ask, cookie. And I got the answer I expected - excuses and avoidance. It's a shame that minx felt the need to air this very specific example, knowing that everyone would know who she was talking about. It seems that there's some sort of underlying "Dom pissing match" going on here at the library, egged on by some subbies. It's happened before and it will happen again.

So, to answer the original question...

Yes, the hard questions should be asked. And yes, the fallout from them is sometimes not what we intend/hope for. But it's better to know up front than to leave it lingering and festering out of fear...and when the reaction or answer is not what we expected, well, at least we know. And can make a decision based on that.