Confused

[silver9]

So... help me out here... sorry to be blunt. Does that mean you have oral genital contact? anal? mutual masturbation? Just not vaginal intercourse?

Everything on that list but just not anal, at the moment

And... what exactly are you thinking of when you say "I want to be dominated."

I have a vague idea with that, and I've been trying to figure out more exactly what I do want; but I'm really new to all this so I think I have to grow a bit before I can say exactly how I fit into the whole BDSM life; just trying to find out more is the main reason I joined this forum.

Right now I'm just thinking whether it's better to wait and figure things out before I bring it up again; the last thing I want to do is to make a mistake, and I know there's a lot of stuff I still have to find out about it all

[gemmy]

Right now I'm just thinking whether it's better to wait and figure things out before I bring it up again; the last thing I want to do is to make a mistake, and I know there's a lot of stuff I still have to find out about it all

silver, hun - that is a thought for sure but I think you are on the right track with continuing to learn all you can. Read, absorb, find out what makes you really tingle when you read this or that and how you could see that happening for you, if you can see that happening for you.

Asking questions openly helps go a long way in hearing other's views and perspectives which you can then take into yourself to see if that is something you like or not. It's part of the learning process.

Knowing what you might want will help guide you firstly and staying open to other ideas will help you continue to grow and learn more.

Where your boyfriend is concerned, all you can do is state openly, bluntly and honestly how you feel - don't 'skirt' around maybe's and what if's. Let him know outright it is something you Need to explore and would like him to explore with you. He will let you know if that is not for him or if he thinks it would be interesting to learn together or not