Quote Originally Posted by silver9 View Post
With the whole no sex things; my family is very, very strict, and if I was to ever get pregnant before marriage then I really don't even want to know what they'd do. We do everything but actual sex, and he's been okay with that because he's met my family and I've explained it to him; and we've been together for a year and a half virtually exactly, sorry if I didn't explain everything clearly
With the 'strict' thing above, I am presuming that this precludes any form of contraception? If not, you may want to look into that as it can solve a lot of your issues here. I also assume that you are being very careful about how you perform oral sex and mutual masturbation as there is always a risk of passing on disease through these methods (though not if neither of you have no other partners so I wouldn't worry too much about that at present).

I also assume that you intend to marry this guy at some point and may even have made plans in that direction? Thats the impression I get from your post, anyway.

Anyway, you want him to dominate you? That sounds like a big step to take from the position you are in now. I think you need to work slowly and build up to this and also make sure that this is indeed what you want and he is the guy you want it with (and that he wants to be this way with you). There is a big difference between 'a bit of kinky sex' and total power exchange - where you give up control of your life to him in its entirity. The process will involve a lot of trust and affection.

Ok, you've done the 'holding hands above head' thing - quite a common thing even in vanilla sex. The next step (and also quite common even with vanilla couples) may be to try the old 'silk scarves on the bed post with a blindfold on' bit. Though I wouldn't use silk scarves because they tend to tighten too much and can cut off the circulation - use something softer and more robust like cotton. Suggest it as a fun game. Many other 'normal' couples do it so he may not see it as such a bad thing. Once you are tied up, you can experiment with things like food play and tickling/touch sensations. One game I have had fun playing in vanilla sex is tying the other person up, blindfolding them and then using various objects on the skin like feathers, different types of cloth (rough wool, silk, velvet) and so on to get different sensations. You can play a 'guess the object' game while doing it.

You can also ask him to spank you during your sessions. Again, many normal couples experiment with a bit of spanking (I am sure you could find an article in Cosmo or a similar woman's magazine to prove this fact to him if you needed to, they seem to print a rather tame 'kinky sex' article every issue or so ) so he may not see this as unusual.

Basically, work him up to more extreme things by slow progression, convincing him that this sort of thing is normal for many couples (it is, beleive me... the number of vanilla girls I have slept with in my time who did not know my kink but still asked me to spank them or tie them up...). Once he gets into the mindset of enjoying this stuff then you will be half way there.