Ummmm.....if you're planning on marriage, why would you start it off on this note? You should have NO secrets.

i know, i know, everyone has skeletons...but before we were married (11 years ago), Mr.FixIt and i had a "free confessions" kind of evening. We told things that we had NEVER told anyone EVER.

There is nothing there that he doesn't know about me, and vise/versa. It was one of the most difficult nights i have ever had. It took alot of guts and it was embarrassing to bear it all, and hear it all. All of the bad things that we each felt guilty about came out on the table....

At that moment, we took ownership of each other. There is COMPLETE trust. Neither of us knew that the other, however, was such a freak until we'd been married for 8 years lol.

Knowing all i have about Him since that night, i must say....i really wish i'd KNOWN that i was into the other side of vanilla when our relationship was new. Then when we realized it, we were afraid to admit it. We missed out on alot, simply because we were both afraid to admit our kinks.

Don't do that. Be completely honest....especially if you plan to spend your lives together. NEVER lie to one another, not even a little. Honesty is brutal, but real trust is golden, and hard to come by.

BTW, once you admit being kinky in one way, it's easy to admit other kinks....and then work your way up.