Quote Originally Posted by orangeblossoms View Post
The same exact thing happened to me, and he constantly needed me to go through ridiculous things not only for him not to feel insecure but so that he felt like a proper dom, just wasnt healthy at all, unfortunetly my relationship didnt end as easily as yours sounded, b/c he was unwilling to see that he was just completely psycho, and treating me like I was just a robot that had to please...
Mine didn't end easily at all... Nearly two months after the fact, he walked in my front door, tackled me, and kicked the s*** outta' me. Not a great way to spend three hours of one's life, we'll put it that way. However, the experience drives home the point that people who are insecure (regardless of their experiences with their current partner) tend to have issues that deeper attempts at trust building often fail to correct.

Cadence chimed in with a great point, that she is slow to offer trust and, frankly, so am I. However, there is a HUGE difference between lack of trust, and mistrust. I stated before and I'll mention again: both trust AND mistrust have to be earned. Like Cadence, I am slow to give up the core of who I am to people. It's hard, and it requires my partner to show patience. But there's a big difference between holding your own cards close to the vest for awhile and jumping all over another person for suspected indiscretions.