Quote Originally Posted by DowntownAmber View Post
Mine didn't end easily at all... Nearly two months after the fact, he walked in my front door, tackled me, and kicked the s*** outta' me. Not a great way to spend three hours of one's life, we'll put it that way. However, the experience drives home the point that people who are insecure (regardless of their experiences with their current partner) tend to have issues that deeper attempts at trust building often fail to correct.

Cadence chimed in with a great point, that she is slow to offer trust and, frankly, so am I. However, there is a HUGE difference between lack of trust, and mistrust. I stated before and I'll mention again: both trust AND mistrust have to be earned. Like Cadence, I am slow to give up the core of who I am to people. It's hard, and it requires my partner to show patience. But there's a big difference between holding your own cards close to the vest for awhile and jumping all over another person for suspected indiscretions.

Sorry to hear that Amber hun and yes, I too have spent those kinds of hours and some even in the hospital. It may very well be a root to my lack of trust in people or maybe it has something to do with my mother dumping me at five and so many other things in my past lol which is why my reasons for my opinions are mine alone.

You make such a great point about the lack of trust vs mistrust and one that people hopefully can clearly see the differences in. Although, I don't trust many people and find it hard to give it to anyone for fear of them hurting me, I don't generally mistrust (expect them to fu*k up) anyone (well unless they completely creep me out haha!) - So that is to say, although I don't trust easily, I do trust and once given is wholly believed until it is otherwise broken.