Trust (or lack thereof)

[gustaf]

Mine didn't end easily at all... Nearly two months after the fact, he walked in my front door, tackled me, and kicked the s*** outta' me. Not a great way to spend three hours of one's life, we'll put it that way. However, the experience drives home the point that people who are insecure (regardless of their experiences with their current partner) tend to have issues that deeper attempts at trust building often fail to correct.

I find myself in a similar situation...my last relationship ended because I wouldn't "beat the shit" out of her. Ironic perhaps? Trust was violated, in my situation, at the point I understood she had very low self esteem and I was the pawn she was using to verify her own lack of self worth…it made me sick!

[DowntownAmber]

I find myself in a similar situation...my last relationship ended because I wouldn't "beat the shit" out of her. Ironic perhaps? Trust was violated, in my situation, at the point I understood she had very low self esteem and I was the pawn she was using to verify her own lack of self worth…it made me sick!

Any relationship used to either mask or to validate low self esteem needs to have the brakes put on it, and put on QUICKLY. It makes no difference if the self esteem is the cause for the love, or the cause for the hate; it's bad news for both parties involved.