Trust (or lack thereof)

[DowntownAmber]

I find myself in a similar situation...my last relationship ended because I wouldn't "beat the shit" out of her. Ironic perhaps? Trust was violated, in my situation, at the point I understood she had very low self esteem and I was the pawn she was using to verify her own lack of self worth…it made me sick!

Any relationship used to either mask or to validate low self esteem needs to have the brakes put on it, and put on QUICKLY. It makes no difference if the self esteem is the cause for the love, or the cause for the hate; it's bad news for both parties involved.