I must say that I have been guilty of the Star Trek philosophy of BDSM before. You know, to boldly go where no-one has gone before? There is something about being the one to bring someone into a heightened awareness of their sexual appetites that quickens my pulse and gets the juices flowing.

Converting virgins can be a lot of work, though, and it can be just as rewarding to continue someone's training who has already taken those first steps with another. Finding someone who knows what a gift their submission is and is willing to go with you on further voyages of discover is a premium beyond measure.

All that said, sex is fun and you should do what you enjoy. As long as they know what they are consenting to, you should be fine. Communicate, communicate, communicate.