Help! I like vanilla girls!

[gemmy]

[QUOTE=TomOfSweden;617067]...." It just takes a lot of s o c i a l i s i n g, partying and sleeping around".......

Now why do you need to sleep around a lot to figure it out? Nothing that some straight communication won't figure out. Don't need to go screwing every girl around to find whether she likes kink.

[Haelix]

[QUOTE=mastersgem;617369]

...." It just takes a lot of s o c i a l i s i n g, partying and sleeping around".......

Now why do you need to sleep around a lot to figure it out? Nothing that some straight communication won't figure out. Don't need to go screwing every girl around to find whether she likes kink.

Awww whats the fun in talking if they're down with sleeping around to find out? Yeah you could ask what's wrapped up in your christmas present, but its MUCH more fun to open it, find out its a wool sweater, and move on to the next one.

[TomOfSweden]

Now why do you need to sleep around a lot to figure it out? Nothing that some straight communication won't figure out. Don't need to go screwing every girl around to find whether she likes kink.

I don't agree at all. Men and women communicate on very different levels. On the high level we can understand each other. When we're discussing stuff like science, philosophy and meaning of life. But as soon as we get down to the basic things that drive us. Our sexuality, and how we bond we have no fucking clue. All our explanations are just narratives created after we've already taken our decisions. We don't understand ourselves. On this level we have not evolved any further than monkeys. So how are we going to be able to do any "straight communication" given our situations.

All we can do is read what her body language tells us. Listen to her deep sighs. Pay attention to widening eyes and parted pouting lips. Men give corresponding reactions. It's all subconscious. You will never be able to put words on it. Your source of your desires will always be beyond your reach.

Only sleeping around can teach us this. But you can only learn if you pay attention. Saving yourself for that special one, is a great way to keep yourself in the dark, and make sure you'll learn far too late how to please yourself and how to get your partner to please you. There's no time to waste. Especially not since a young body is easier to get laid

Sexual involuntary responses are to a large degree relative to our testosterone levels. Just a thing like that. How will you learn stuff like this if you haven't had all types?

My two cents.

edit: I live like I preach. But I've had plenty of long relationships. So it's not like I'm preaching commitment fears. I just think that all fruit needs to be tasted. And seriously guys. Which girls were best in bed. The sluts or the "daddies girl" girls? I praise the slut. I see sleeping around as embracing life. Taking advantage of this body we have been lucky enough to be blessed with. It would be wasting it not so sleep around, wouldn't it?