Quote Originally Posted by HisandHisOnly View Post
"I agree. The sense I get is that this Dom is new to all this and so may not yet have found the confidence he needs to be the Dom you think he should be. He may also be staying away out of a desire to not make the situation worse than it already is (even if that is apparently causing a problem) by avoiding the possibly inevitable and explosive confrontation that will result if he spends too long with the parents. Its possibly a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. A confrontation may air all the problems and clear the air a little but it is also likely to lead to a lot more trouble for the OP in the long run and may even precipitate a situation where she is forced to leave home.

As an aside, I feel this thread has highlighted a major difference between the UK and the USA. By 19 I had already moved out of my parent's house and considered that they had no say on what I did or who with. They had the right to comment and I would listen to their advice but not the right to outright forbid. But, by 18 in this country you are considered to be legally responsible for your own actions. Is this not the case in USA or is it the later age of 21?"

fetishdj in the USA most people when they turn 18 in the USA they will move out but not all the time. I have not moved out because My mom and I guess I don't feel ready for me to be out on my own. I'm not mature enough. Mr Fix It you need to meet my parents to understand why my dom can't meet then, lolz. They can be scary at times, also the fact he knows how they don't like him.So myscis right, it's hard to meet parents. We have known each other since freshman in high school(I'm 19 and he is 20) been dating for 8 months on May 5th, and we have been into BDSM for 2 or 3 months now. We are kinda new at this. I am going to see if he can post his opinion on here, i asked him if he could come take a look at this cause you all give such wonderful advice.
Ok wait a minute here - am I the only one seeing this??

She wants her parents to support her, pay for her car, her insurance, her rent, her food and all in all, her well being, but doesn't think they should have a say in her life?

Sorry to say it......but, suck it up hunnie, life's full of trade off's, if you continue to Use their support, you continue to live by their rules simply.....you know that age old saying: "As long as you live in my house........" Still stands today.

Second goes to the above bolded point - you're not mature enough to move out and be an adult, but you're mature enough to be having sex?? and more BDSM sex? *shakes head*

Hard but simple: Grow up or Grow out - You'd be far more hard pressed were you my daughter

p.s.: I'm neither Christian nor Religious and don't believe this should be shouldered by the Religious sect