Wow these are great comments. Thanks everyone.

PRO-DOM: "Well, I am going to tell you that you sound definate to me about your needs."

This one line is giving me a lot to think about. Interesting isn't it how sometimes when you're in the thick of something you can't see what may be obvious from outside, or looking back. But when you're in there there's just no way to untangle yourself ... Sometime's there's nothing like a voice from outside, maybe even someone you don't know at all and just ran across on an internet forum, for you to stop and look with fresh eyes. Thank you.

"I also want you to know that it does not matter whether you want to be Dom today and sub tomorrow as it is perfectly okay to do them both."

Yes, this is also something I need to do some thinking on. I believe 100% it's okay to do what the hell you want with whomever wants to join you. The question I guess is how to be clear about what I want ... so as not to confuse myself and others. This is what I'm having problems with sometimes. And I think that can take some real self-exploration. And self-exploration must mean finding your own way, exploring your own desires, rather than relying on other peoples' definitions and categories. Actually I could write a lot more on my thoughts on this ... but I've blathered on enough for now eh.

Euryleia - "All that said, sex is fun ..."

Oh yes. Let's not lose sight of that.

Thanks again for these communications.