*nods in agreement with Tojo and cadence*

I didn't expect Master to get into it like i did...and i believe it is rare i was lurking, for the most part, on a site, just learning. Then i wet Master's whistle with a slightly kinky sex position, and called him "Sir" while ....(was just trying it on for size)

Anyway, before i turn this into the wrong kinda post, being a sub/slave is so much more than being locked up in shackles. mmm... Sex is only 10% of a relationship/marriage, unless there's little or no sex. Then, it becomes 90% of the problem. That is, so i've heard... BDSM is about wearing the shackles in your heart, and seriously following through. It takes a LOT of work, patience (oh, jeez, the patience!), practice, TRUST, and the list goes on.

... and as cadence says, everyone deals in their own way with their situation. i'm no authority, tho, this is only my humble opinion.

Here's my twisted Brady Bunch story: We live in a small house. Our bedroom is right across the hall from our 16 year old son. Most everything we do is kept on the down-low, though i wear a locked collar 23.5 hours a day. The boy thinks i'm just goth. lol. Maybe on some days. My husband of nearly 12 years is my Master for 1 year now. It took 4 years to get from watching "Secretary" to being bound and whipped, and finally, signing a 10-page slave contract (thanks for the link, Sir Russell!).

Let it all sink in for him....and maybe if you're patient (frikkin word), he'll come around to your way of seeing things. Maybe you can find a kinky side in him.

.....ever watch "Rock of Love" --the reality show with Bret Michaels? He's LOLOL lookin for a wife, sheesh. It's a stoopid, yet funny show...kinda lookin like that proverbial train wreck. I saw one episode...one. Ok, maybe two. The girls were told to get on stage and turn him on (in summary). One dressed sexy and stood there..........and ironed one of his shirts!!!

Define kinky!!