Quote Originally Posted by fetishdj View Post
I think the question has to be asked 'where do all the experienced Doms come from?' By your philosophy above, an inexperienced sub can easily get training and become experienced through experienced Doms. However, an inexperienced Dom cannot gain anything because they always have to be more experienced than the sub. So, the BDSM world will be serviced by a rapidly ageing and dwindling supply of experienced Doms (who will get more and more popular and overworked as more and more inexperienced subs enter the market) while a large number of inexperienced Doms hang around with no one to be Master of because they are not experienced enough.

Ok, taking it to extremes a little there but you do see what I mean, I hope?

I personally do not think that inexperience is related to ability to be a Dom. You can be more dominant than someone and yet still less experienced. One is nature with a little bit of education and experience to refine it while the other is purely learnt.

I am personally of the 'learn together camp'. While it is great to have a more experienced Master (and I can see why you would desire it) I do not think it is necessary. I am also aware that 'experience' is rarely linear or equally distributed with time. 'I have had 5 years experience of the lifestyle' could mean 'I have been to a lot of seminars, worked with a lot of subs, done workshops and demos and really worked at the art of BDSM for many years' or it could mean 'I have read a lot of internet forums and once whipped a girl at her hen night'. I have known people with both those CV claim to be 'experienced'. There is always more you can learn no matter how experienced you are.

No, my question was.....

Experienced or Not - not where the experience comes from - as stated, I realize we all have to learn from somewhere and I have helped many learn along the way.

You've over perpetuated the scenario, obviously and were it even remotely accurate would see a whole different flux in the BDSM society. There are many subs and other Dominants that mentor and teach prospective new Dom's in their journey, so we know they are learning, geesh.

As we are ALL fond of saying - we are ALL different and have different but similar things we want, I was just trying to see how many felt the same as I and how many didn't - simple