humm are yu experienced,,??(jimmy hendrix)) its my own experience that a dom with lil experience is ok if he is 1-Strong willed, 2- smart enough to find out the nessesary info before doing sumthing to me, etc, 3-knows me and my responses way before play time & 4-allows me to know him just as well, ive been around the block a few times i started knowing absolutly nothing and realize you have to learn somewhere, back when i was younger after my first dom and his wife, i went out determined to find and or make a dom if nessesary,, in desperation we found an older more experienced dom to teach him and in the prossess i ended up with Him instead of my newbie, but that was all real life training, a far different cry from on line, my experience via hind sight was i need a dom thats in charge and knows more than i do, and that worked for a long time for me. now, ive become kinda a teacher online at times to those that need the help, and even enjoyed online experiences with not so experienced doms ,but alas everyone is different, and the bdsm side of a relationship should never comepletely dominate the two peoples lives, even in a so called 24/7, the base of any relationship should be love