I don't have a 'preference', just my own very limited experience to draw on. I first tried to help my husband become my 'Dom', with no knowledge of my own except what I read. I found two things: 1) He has no 'inner Dom' just bursting to be set free and 2) although I was more than willing to travel this path with him, I did need him to educate himself and at least learn some healthier ways to 'be a Dom' that I felt safe with. He wouldn't, so I don't, with him. That experiment lasted not quite a year. Now, I am with someone who does have more experience than me, but has been selective in His choices of subs. The neatest thing is, we have recently begun traveling a path that is new to us both. And we trust each other with that - I trust Him to think it through and get what knowledge and self-knowledge He needs, and He trusts me to communicate and always speak up if/when we are going somewhere I'm not ready for. We support each other in ways I've only begun to comprehend. I guess I have the best of both worlds.

That being said, I can see a point in time where I *might* be willing to submit to a new Dom, for the purposes of helping him and letting him experience in real life how it feels to do certain things, to have power...but would have a hard time thinking of him as 'my Dom'. Of course, if the one I do think of as my Dom (it still feels strange to write that, after almost a year) asked me to submit to a new Dom for Him, with His supervision...yeah. Then I definitely would.