Yes, jeanne, I too tried to walk my ex-husband down that path before learning that you can't 'make' a Dom lol

Of course on the experience note, we can all lie but this post assumes, for the benefit of the doubt and sake of theory and arguments.....that experienced means they have some real experience, not fake made up experience - in my opinion, fake experience is easy to spot anyway so why even bring it into the debate? Yes, we can all still be fooled even after taking all necessary steps (I'm a shining example), but I still go with the hope that I'll sort out the fakes from those that are real.

Many that do have REAL/TRUE experience are past that stage where they think it's all about the kinky sex and are more willing to take on the mental/emotional journey and responsibility - that's the bit I'm after