Quote Originally Posted by mastersgem View Post
Many that do have REAL/TRUE experience are past that stage where they think it's all about the kinky sex and are more willing to take on the mental/emotional journey and responsibility - that's the bit I'm after
Yep - being with someone who knows it's more than the 'kink' is wonderful. It's the integration of all the aspects of our relationship that I enjoy, the kink being one piece of the puzzle, which wouldn't be there without all the rest.