I think I am a little confused. I was raised Catholic, but had left disgusted a few years ago and have "switched" to Unitarian Universalism (Christian branch). So as someone who has had her fair share of the Bible study, my question is - where in the Bible did you read that BDSM is a sin? Or for that matter that "sex is bad"? Thats just something dirty, evil, old priests shout to control their flock. The only thing Bible does say is that one shouldn't succumb to premarital sex and as you have already managed to "reconcile" that, whats the problem? BDSM sex is just sex. And as far as nonsexual aspect is concerned, well most Christians seem to believe that Bible is big on submissive women serving men (husbands) anyway.