Quote Originally Posted by MissElizabeth87 View Post
So, from reading other posts, I've seen that most people on here are agnostic or atheist, but I thought I might try to get an answer about this anyways. I am a Christian and have been all my life. Now, don't get some image of some fanatic cramming the bible down your throat... I have always believed that my faith is something I should LIVE out, and if you choose not to agree with me, that is your own choice. That said... I am having trouble with balancing the lifestyle and my beliefs. I have only really been a part of this for a couple of months, and my faith is still the same. I just feel really... ashamed, I guess, when I go to church or read my bible, knowing what I have just done the night before...because of the submissive woman thing in the bible. I was wondering if anyone else had experience dealing with this?

Also... I am not *legally* married, and while I realize the bible condemns sex outside of marriage, marriage is described as a commitment before God that is consumated. My relationship does exactly that. My parents say it is a stretch but I was informed by pastors that we do biblically qualify as married, so please do not get into that.

As far as I'm concerned, The Bible doesn't condemn bdsm or sex before marriage anymore than it does men with crushed testicles entering synagogues. What it clearly does condemn though is the committing of actions that you from your own conscience know to be immoral.

I think the skill one needs to balance a christian life and bdsm is to objectively look at your actions and think for yourself 'Is what I am doing done with respect to others and is what I am doing done with respect to myself'. As long as your desires don't cause you to inflict psychological or spiritual damage to other people or yourself, no-one should be entitled to tell you that you are a sinner.