I too am a feminist, I've worked with several feminist organizations and was raised with the belief that SAHM were undermining the 'movement' and D/s relationships where the female was the sub was sick and deluded and feeding to the stereotype that women are weak and can't even make their own decisions.

As I get older I am trying to reconcile my desires to be sub with what I have raised and taught my whole life. While I am lucky to have my Owner, he is very passionate about making sure I am always satisfied in submitting, but never disrespected or degraded. He does a tremendous balancing act and does it with perfection.

I find a further problem with it in the confines of being a mother to a son. I want him to grow up learning that women are strong and powerful, but always sweet and nurturing and that women are easily his equal. But I am submissive to a man. It's quite a conondrum *sp?*. My Owner and I have discussed it at length and decided that we will keep it solely play in the bedroom and not discuss it so he can learn those ideals without confusing my desires in with my beliefs. lol I am lucky to have him!