What makes you...

[Kuskovian]

Dominance is something that pervades every aspect of existance, from the smallest of microbes to the most complex of creatures. Even plants wage war with one another for control. It is a common biological truth that is apparent to any insightful observer.

The hiearchy of dominion is all pervading each and every one of us and every thing has thier place within it.

I was raised to be a man, and in the world I was raised in; a man was dominant. He commanded the household and his familey. (Call me a throw back all you want.)

The ancient societies of mankind had no problem figuring out this concept for themselves.

I truely became fully self aware of these facts at the age of 12 while reading a library book by John Norman. I was quite amazed that here in plain print was a code of honor that felt whole and complete to me; one by which I could easily live the rest of my life by.

Over the years; I have seen many other writers send the same message in different ways but something was allways missing from thier volume of work. Especially when it came to relationships between man and woman.

In other words, as God said to Moses: " I am what I am".

[AdrianaAurora]

Dominance is something that pervades every aspect of existance, from the smallest of microbes to the most complex of creatures. Even plants wage war with one another for control. It is a common biological truth that is apparent to any insightful observer.

The hiearchy of dominion is all pervading each and every one of us and every thing has thier place within it.

I was raised to be a man, and in the world I was raised in; a man was dominant. He commanded the household and his familey. (Call me a throw back all you want.)

The ancient societies of mankind had no problem figuring out this concept for themselves.

I truely became fully self aware of these facts at the age of 12 while reading a library book by John Norman. I was quite amazed that here in plain print was a code of honor that felt whole and complete to me; one by which I could easily live the rest of my life by.

I think you and my husband would either get along famously or locked horns until proper Dominance order was established, roflmao.

As for calling you throw back, no, its actually quite reassuring, because for male population at large the concept of honor seems to have been lost. Its important for me to have my opinion respected and to have professional liberty, but I also like the fact that He is pure man. Basically when it comes to work he is "an equal opportunity bastard" (his PAs words, lol), but in all else he likes to "play" overbearing male.

If no one else wants to lead, I do. If someone is leading poorly, I want to take over.

Thats me, in every relationship except the one I share with my husband. And its precisely what prompted my little conundrum. While submission to me is stress release, is Dominance a burden for Him? Is he only Dom because I am not in the mood to be in charge at home, because I need Him?
When I posed that question to Him, the answer was unequivocal no, its simply the was He has always been (dominant), even before starting to explore bdsm. He also made it clear that the very thought of submitting and giving up control makes his stress levels soar, but I am still trying to wrap my brain around it. Does Dominating works as stress relief for you? Does it make you happy and/or fulfilled? Or is it hard, exhausting work?

I have no idea where I am going with this. And if its too much bother, its all His fault, lol. When He travels, I tend to think too much, .

[Ozme52]

Does Dominating works as stress relief for you? Does it make you happy and/or fulfilled? Or is it hard, exhausting work?

I have no idea where I am going with this. And if its too much bother, its all His fault, lol. When He travels, I tend to think too much, .

Stress relief? No. Happy? Fulfilled? Absolutely. It's where I'm most comfortable.

But that still won't tell you why...