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This internal debate, for me, started in school a couple of years ago. I was in my final year and we were working on Ibsen's "A Doll's House". Our English teacher, a downright feminist to the bone, advocated how the woman in the play was being put down by her husband, who treated her like a doll, a pet, a toy. I was the only one at the time who actually put my foot down and told her, right in the face, that I'm pretty sure his wife liked it. It was their game, they had both established the rules together and they perfectly enjoyed themselves. She never really liked the fact that my essays were bordering between BDSM and text analysis. Nonetheless I moved forward to Uni, the course I'm taking focuses on human rights, including, of course, children's rights, women's rights and minority rights.
I've had submissive urges for a very very very long time, I like submitting to men, I enjoy it, I find pleasure in it. Apart from the fact that it's private and nobody will EVER be given the right to judge me about it, feminism isn't about women vs. men, it's women for women. I was raped at Uni. There was pain and there was humiliation, it was not pleasant and I turned him over to the Uni authorities. That, and that alone, proves that being submissive IS my choice and nobody can force me to do anything I do not want to do. My tutor, at the time, had seen me around campus with a collar around my neck, she had asked me into her office to have a little chat, you can all see where that went. Nonetheless, after the incident, seeing that I went to her with it, she told me that it wasn't my fault. I replied that I knew that, that is why I told on him, so that another girl wouldn't get hurt in the same way.
I am still a submissive and I still consider myself an advocate for equal rights--especially since, in countries such as Greece, for example, where I live, there are, in my opinion, inequalities concerning both genders.

All in all, sorry for the ranting, it's a sensitive issue for me, i will agree with the previous posts that speak about feminism as the right to choose. It was only few decades ago that women were taught that their ONLY role was to get married and take care of the household and their children. I'm very very happy that i can now choose what my role is going to be.
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