For me a part of it is the fact that dominance is simply my nature and my personality. It is the manner I have always interacted with others since I was a child. I don’t actually recall any childhood memories of tying anyone up or that sort of thing, but even as a child, other children deferred to me and naturally I occupied the position of leader. As I grew up I tended to gravitate to positions of leadership both formally and informally and it was in those positions that I found meaning and satisfaction. Dominance then I think is in large part the inherent natural ability to lead; to exert control in a respectful, intelligent and humble manner.

I don’t think one simply decides one day to be a leader. In some ways I think it works in much the same way as the dominant/submissive dynamic in the lifestyle. A dominant does not take by force or coercion the submission of another person, but the person yields control consensually. In the same way, leaders lead by “consent” of those they lead once they have earned respect and confidence. There is required a certain strength of character which allows you to exert the control necessary to be an effective leader and you must prove that you have the will and the ability to care for another person's well being. All of that I think translates well into being a dominant in the lifestyle and engaging in power transfer relationships.

I’m not sure I could accurately say that exercising my dominance within the lifestyle is a craving per se. I neither crave power nor do I consider myself a control freak. I do nevertheless enjoy being in that position but it has much more to do with the satisfaction I derive from the other person’s willingness to relinquish control to be over aspects of their life. I am by nature a person who is not arrogant but who has always had a solid sense of self worth. I am self controlled and self disciplined, honest, patient and responsible. I thrive in positions of responsibility, both in my public and private life. I find great personal satisfaction in caring for another person’s needs as well as in nurturing, teaching and mentoring others. The dynamics of the D/s relationship are a perfect environment to experience and accomplish those things.