New Kink Label?

[littlepet]

Ozme, I didn't mean the TERM pet was new. But the using it in this frame as a separate classification on the same level as slave, sub, etc. seems to me to be either fairly recent, or a very minor subthread of kink.

It is theoretically possible someone has misunderstood me. I did not "learn" my lifestyle from second life. Second Life is an amusing online playacting diversion. I have been in a real life relationship for 8 years now, though those years are very difficult to summarize as when we became "zomg really real power exchange people." It was a hard road to get to where we are now,and I'm not yet sure if we're totally exactly where we're going yet, if that makes sense. I don't consider that I was truly collared in a sense of an actual real commitment to not straddle the fence between a vanilla play world and a real kink world, until last December, despite the several years before that.

I am merely expressing that I believe a terminology on SL has started to filter outwards. This is only a theory and may not be actually true. But a google search reveals precious little in the way of "pet" being used in the sense that I've used it. NOT as merely a term of endearment within a kink relationship, and NOT in a kink relationship that is focusing on "animalizing" the relationship...like for example having the pet drink from a dish on the floor or something.

I'm not judging either action as wrong. It just isn't what I'm referring to.

Denuseri,

please do not just assume I'm some newb who decided to try out this nifty kink thing last week. I NEVER said people in a TPE master/slave relationship could not have love, I was merely speaking of personal connotations of the word "pet" vs. "slave" to me.

I know I'm new to this forum, but I'm not "new" to master/slave power exchange relationships. And I didn't feel it was necessary to spell out my entire kink history in order not to be directed to "study up" on shit I have read and studied for years now to come to the place that I am at now.

LMAO flaming, good point!

[littlepet]

I also would like to point out, that I read several threads on here before I registered and posted. My assumption was that the people on here seemed somewhat cool, and not like the "more submissive than you" people or any of the other weird little game playing "one-upmanship" we so often get in online forums regarding kink.

It is possible my assessment was entirely wrong and that I do not play well with other kinky people as a group. If that turns out to be the case I'm better off going back to my own little corner and making individual friendships with the kinky people I relate to, as opposed to trying to interact on a forum where people wish to "educate" me without getting to know anything about me first.

[caligirl{Rob}]

Big hugs! My thoughts are that within the lifestyle terms are as individual as relationships From the moment we met, my Sir chose to call me by the term "pet" He on the other hand does not choose for me to call Him Master, but prefers Sir or Sarge. I am most definitely submissive, but i melt at the sound to this day of "pet" from His lips....and we are together over 18 months. *Smiles* so i totally relate to the warm feeling you get from the term. What ultimately matters and should hold the only power over the relationship is how the people involved feel, choose and relate too...it sounds as though you have stepped into the beginning of a wonderful journey!

big hugs!

cali

I also would like to point out, that I read several threads on here before I registered and posted. My assumption was that the people on here seemed somewhat cool, and not like the "more submissive than you" people or any of the other weird little game playing "one-upmanship" we so often get in online forums regarding kink.

It is possible my assessment was entirely wrong and that I do not play well with other kinky people as a group. If that turns out to be the case I'm better off going back to my own little corner and making individual friendships with the kinky people I relate to, as opposed to trying to interact on a forum where people wish to "educate" me without getting to know anything about me first.

[littlepet]

Hi Caligirl. A few years ago I would have said, "the beginning? what what?" But yeah, the rabbit hole just goes deeper and deeper and I have no idea where I'll be in another five years or ten years on this road.

I don't know if I'll experience full internal enslavement, or not. I don't know if I want to, or not. For now, it is enough to know that I am owned, to know that I am loved, and to know that I've found a truly compatible Master in the bedroom and out. (and holy hell, he better be after all the crap we had to go through to get to this point.) Looking at what's out there, it seems precious few are able to find a kink relationship that is compatible and meets their needs.

We are, after all, talking about highly specific and individualized needs. I'm sure each person could write a book on their philosophies/views of kink and what their relationships mean to them, and we'd have several very different books with a few overlapping points.

Also I love "Sarge" that is so awesome! Being thought of as his "pet" really does make me melt. The only thing that makes me melt as much is when he says, "Morning, lover." I love, "lover" as a title/label/endearment.

[Ozme52]

I also would like to point out, that I read several threads on here before I registered and posted. My assumption was that the people on here seemed somewhat cool, and not like the "more submissive than you" people or any of the other weird little game playing "one-upmanship" we so often get in online forums regarding kink.

It is possible my assessment was entirely wrong and that I do not play well with other kinky people as a group. If that turns out to be the case I'm better off going back to my own little corner and making individual friendships with the kinky people I relate to, as opposed to trying to interact on a forum where people wish to "educate" me without getting to know anything about me first.

Whoa pet... Your original post posited ideas and asked for our thoughts... Not fair to jump on any of the responders for having contrary opinions. Nor were there any personal attacks. No one even suggested you learned anything from SL... just a comment that what is found in SL isn't necessarily all that new... just presented in a new format.

[littlepet]

Fair enough Ozme.

[Ozme52]

Ozme, I didn't mean the TERM pet was new. But the using it in this frame as a separate classification on the same level as slave, sub, etc. seems to me to be either fairly recent, or a very minor subthread of kink.

As a level of ownership, no, still not new.

Not even new per se, when I was a youngster.

There used to be this way people communicated ideas through stories... I think they were called books... and as a youngster I learned pretty quickly there's really not all that much new under the sun.

Technologies, yes, and they allow ideas to spread more quickly, but the basic ideas... mere variations on old themes.