Hi FS,

Welcome to the forums.

Based upon your first few postings out of the gates, I'm thinking you're open to the idea of comments.

I'll bite.

I'm not sure if I've misunderstood... but are these all fantasies or truly are you searching for that masochist (though I think sadist and masochist are not strong enough terms to describe what you and a theoretical partner seek) to share in these experiences?

Forgive me for being concerned for any party to become a part of this style relationship. Truly I'm anything but a judgemental person, to each their own, but I'm not understanding in any remote way the depth of these types of desires. To me, it's just purely abuse unless I've missed where there's any expressed care for the person willing to entertain your whims. Or is that truly what someone wants?

please help enlighten me. And perhaps there's others that may share your sentiments that can help explain to me how this is a rewarding relationship for both.

I'm sorry- I just don't understand.

cheers,
Orchidsoul