Quote Originally Posted by Euryleia View Post
That being said, without open communication between partners, you're not going to know which button is being pressed. You have to know yourself and what your lines are. You also have to trust your partner to only push the soft limits and to listen to your words and your body.
As with so much else in this lifestyle, communication is key here. My kitten communicates these well, there are hard-limits and in-the-right-frame-of-mind-limits.