i agree with SubmissiveDoll. i know i would be hurt if my significant other was engaging in another realtionship, bdsm or otherwise and i wasnt aware of it. However i am aware that my Master does occasionally Dom other girls o/l, and i am ok with that. I am confident in my position. Point being it wasnt kept a secret. i understand that others will disagree and say that the two are completely different in terms of relationships, and if that is what works for them that is fine.