Discipline him!

Seriously, though, he doesn't have to be harsh or sadistic to be dominant. He doesn't have to be commanding or controlling all the time - at least, not overtly. He doesn't even have to be loving, tender, or anything else Doms are meant to be.

It's his presonality. If he is in charge, the "boss", he is being dominant in his own way. If you are yielding to his wishes - doing what he wants, because he says so - you are being submissive. But perhaps not in the way you anticipated. Remember, he's new to this. He's learning: help him.

If you are trying to make him act the way you think he should, you must ask yourself if you are topping from below.

I sometimes think the BDSM world is over-analytic in order to explain itself. But I don't think it really bears too much scrutiny. It is simply a reflection of a person's character and kinks. And doms/subs must deal with each other's personality and quirks just like vanilla people deal with their partners' ideosyncrasies. We all have them to a greater of lesser degree.

Setting tasks is really a game. Or a test. It's a game with a meaning - i do this for you, Master, because it pleases me to please you. Failure to complete the tasks would not upset a strong relationship, because the Dom would still get his meals on time, or sex when he wanted, or would be able to work out his fantasies by humiliating his sub another, perhaps more insidious, way. Anyway, ss your Dom, he is entitled not to set you tasks if he so wishes, and you, as his sub, must accept his decision.

Or do the other thing.

MMI