Sorry if i generalised - i didn't mean to judge anyones situation, quite the opposite.

i just feel that, probably for the most part with the best of intentions on behalf of government and other regulators, womens choices are being limited.

And that's really the last thing any women would want (in a general sense, at least).

i fully intend to get back to work at some point - but when i have 3 kids under 5 is NOT the right time for me, although i'll probably finish my degree part time in the meantime.

i actually talked to a woman once who lied about her baby boys age, said he was 6 weeks old when he was actually only 4 weeks, so she could get him into day care. She was a well payed lawyer whose husband also worked and she had 3 months paid maternity leave and 3 months more unpaid if she chose to use it. She just didn't think she could make partner if she was out of the office for much more than a month. i think that is SO sad.

I admit the part of my post you quoted was a sweeping statement, and i'm sorry. i stand by the general premise, but things are never that black and white.