Quote Originally Posted by l_27_australia View Post
Does consensual bdsm as we would recognise it exist in countries that haven't been affected by the feminist/ equal rights movements?

i have no idea and i am really interested to know
I by no means claim to be an expert, but I did have more than a passing brush with Islam.

The basis of marital relations is that they are to be lived "in a good way" (bi'l ma`ruf), as Allah tells us in the Qur'an. Each spouse strives to give the other their rights--including the fulfillment of their sexual needs--but within this paradigm of "in a good way."

Islam prohibits sex with a female when she is menstruating and anal sex. Any other sex between a married couple should be fine so long as they agree to it.

The wife does not have to obey unreasonable sexual requests such as bondage or the use of sex toys. If she decides to agree to such matters--in a way that is not physically, emotionally, or relationally harmful nor demeaning or unbecoming of Allah's honoring of humans--then this is purely her own decision, and the husband does not have the right to "demand" such matters.

I did try to investigate Islam and BDSM on-line in more detail, but sadly there is little to nothing available.