Quote Originally Posted by bambina View Post
What do you do when you are in a D/s relationship where the Dom disciplines you when you do the wrong things (DD pretty much)...but then he turns around and does the wrong things as well? No body is perfect, but how can one sit back and take a spanking for arriving home late because of traffic when that persons Dom came home late 3 weeks earlier because of a late night at the office?
For this particular topic of being late...I think either the dominant or the submissive needs to call if they are going to be late.

It's not about D/s in my opinion. If the dominant wants to punish the submissive for being late...well that is what the submissive signed up for - his rules. However, calling someone and letting them know everything is okay isn't about D/s, it's about being courteous. I was raised to always call if I am going to be late, or going to be out with friends etc. I still live at home and I always call my parents if I am going to be more than half an hour late. It's not about asking them if I can go places, or be late, it's about letting them know I am safe.

Sometimes my brother or other family doesn't call though, and that drives me crazy. It's very worrisome, so I can see where you are feeling pissed at that "do as a say, not as I do" law.

I think it's just something that needs to be talked about between the couple. For instance, I wouldn't mind that "do as I say, not as I do" with swearing and such. The dominant could swear all he wants, if he doesn't want me to swear I wouldn't. Because that is something I could live with. Now if he told me to call if I was going to be 5 minutes late and he never called after being hours late...I would have a problem with that. It's scary to think someone is going to be there, having them traveling and not knowing if they are safe or if they've gotten in an accident or whatever.



IMHO