Sorry... but in my opinion this is a ridiculous rant because you are citing a situation with insufficient information... letting everyone make a presumption that you were severly and unfairly punished.

So we are left to presume there was zero sexual tension in the act. There was no playfulness. There was no lesson learned, no contrition, and no forgiveness. Just some unworthy double standard?

Yes, if all that is true, time to move on. Because you set the presumption in your readers that you feel abused... Are you sure you're submissive? The same scenario(s) written slightly differently by other subs beget comments of how hot the scenes sound...

And I don't agree at all with your perspective of hypocrisy. My old man told me a hundred times how he hated the smoking habit... that the tobacco addiction was stronger than he was and I'd do well to avoid falling into the trap. Where you would have apparently rejected that advice, I took it to heart, especially knowing what he endured and overcame as an actual second class citizen in WWII Europe.

What I'm afraid of is being punished by a Dom who makes the same mistakes (or mistakes period) without being kept in check. Not that I want to discipline anybody. I'm strictly sub. But the discipline turns a little hollow when the enforcer turns out to be a hypocrite who is telling me not to curse ever but then curses a blue street in bed when he calls me a 'fucking whore' (for fun but still...).
If you really think this too is hypocritical... as opposed to bed play... (as clearly you have neglected to tell him it's a limit...) leave.

Go find a nice fluffy dom you can control.