Quote Originally Posted by Pearlgem View Post
Sure it works. BDSM 101.
You mean the book? Heh, I knew I was good... I just didn't realize they were downloading my mind.
Let me rephrase then. Is it possible to eroticise severe pain given as punishment and not intended to be erotic? I am learning to tolerate this type of pain but boy, it'd be good to learn to love it.
Some do have a body reaction, get wet, maybe even horny... but those who do also say that mentally they find it "tortuous" because of the intent... that they're being punished and they know it... so it's not erotic, despite their physical reaction.

But the bottom line is... why would you want to love the act of being punished. Isn't it better to learn and move on? Unless your dom prefers finding excuses to punish you... (and some do, not saying right or wrong in this thread...) and you need to accept and accommodate him as your role as a submissive.

Now, if he likes it as part of role play, where you have to be "bad" or "naughty" in your role... and you get punished... and it's severe... then I can see where your goal would be to eroticize it...

In that case, assuming it wouldn't lose its appeal for your dom, tell him so he can help you get there. My above example... but connecting the orgasm to a spanking... then a paddle... then a flogger or cane... and always escalating the punishment that you connect to the orgasm... just the same way as with nipples... or butt plugs... or wax... or whatever activity you do for him that is difficult for you.

But remember, its being difficult is sometimes part of the appeal for the dom... because you take it for him. In fact, that may be all it takes to eroticize it for you. My girl is constantly amazed at her mental processes as she realizes how good it is for her, giving herself up for my pleasure.